Category Archives: wed.

Buy things for us.

So, this getting married thing. It’s pretty awesome. I mean the “til death do us part” thing is great***, but do you realize how many free things you get?! I bet you didn’t.  Guys, so many free things.

Part one: It started with our registering. I signed up for theknot, like every good bride-to-be, and while most of their daily updates are more irritating than anything else, there are a few gems, from time to time. Of course, I opened the one that promised free food and drinks which led the Boy and I to Macy’s (when he was visiting in October.) And free food and drink, there was. Now he and I had no intention of registering at Macy’s (and have since deleted our registry there,) but decided to attend anyway (did I mention the free food and drinks?!) I think this was a good idea for us, we registered for things knowing that it wasn’t “real” and so got to feel out each others tastes, which are unsurprisingly similar.  And we got to BE engaged, finally. Yes, we’ve been engaged for almost 4 months already (!) but being hundreds of miles apart means we rarely get to experience being treated like we’re getting married (convoluted much?) This registering also brought about a conundrum for myself (and I think the Boy?) I feel greedy registering for a 89$ set of plates, but I also don’t want to pick something  that will break and that I don’t even like just because it’s less expensive. It’s been interesting for me to try and find things that are reasonably priced and that I also want to be a part of our lives. I’m doing my best. And will continue to update our registries. Also, Macy’s gave us a gift bag on the way out with two champagne glasses and a bunch of other cool stuff.

That week, we also set about registering fo’ reals. We ended up registering at Crate & Barrel, Target and The last lets us register for anything that one can buy online (and is a nice alternative to Amazon, which I’m trying to stay away from.) Myregistry also means that we can register for things on Etsy, which I’m totally psyched about.  Which brings me to part two of our little registry showcase: When asked what I want for Christmas, I’ve pointed to my registry. I need a little feedback, gentle readers. If I get some sweet registry things for Christmas, am I supposed to wait until we actually get married before I can use them? It seems funny to me to just leave a box of cool stuff in my room for 8 more months. BUT, and this is what I’m leaning towards, this stuff is for US, not for me. And I want us to have memories of using it together, rather than of using it when I lived alone. Is that too sentimental? I don’t think so. And if it is, I’ll take it. Fine, I’m sentimental. But I’ve also been encouraged in this thinking by this great little piece of writing by Marissa****. (Published! Awesome!) And I really agree with her. I want things that will mean something to both of us.

What do you think?

***If you don’t know me, know that I was being facetious. Clearly the “til-death-do-us-part” thing is better than the free stuff.

****Marissa is awesome. Plus her husband is the best man. More importantly, she likes reading and writing and coffee and bunch of other things that I also like. And me moving means that we get to hang out more. Score. Read her fresh blog here.

And if you didn’t see it last week, Suf (Also D.M. Stith, who is from Houghton, wha-what!) was on Jimmy Fallon. He’s a total genius and I love him. Almost as much as Angel.

(Also, I apologize for the link and no video. Hulu doesn’t let anyone embed anything, ever. Click it. Watch it. It’s awesome.)

(Doesn’t he look a little like Ke$ha did when she was on SNL? I’m getting strong vibes. Whatever, Suf is still a badass.)


Postcards from Italy

Going into this wedding planning business, I was dead set on not needing/wanting/wanting to pay for a wedding video. And I still don’t really care for one. I imagine it would be fun to pull out at anniversaries and maybe to show kinders down the line, but mostly, I think I would be really awkward on camera. My mom has talked me into wedding video, but that’s mostly because we have some second cousin who does video camera things for a living, so it will be free for us. I’m not setting my hopes on it or anything, rather relenting because I don’t have a good reason to say “no” to a free wedding video.

BUT. I’ve been seeing a lot of beautiful wedding videos lately. I posted one on my FB of a lovely elopement and then I saw this one from For You Love Me.

Now, this isn’t exactly a wedding video in the traditional sense, and I’m not even sure what it would be used for…but it’s so lovely. Maybe a sweet Save the Date?

via For You Love Me

A Very Long Engagement.

Ok, so not THAT long. Apparently, the average engagement is 11 to 14 months, although I don’t actually know anyone who has done that.

Our wedding is nothing if not DIY and about “who ya know.”  The venue is owned by the cousin of a friend of someone who goes to our church. My aunt is making the cake. The food is being made by some people my mom works with. These are all good things, as we’re not exactly rolling in money, me being almost graduated and him in, ahem, a very expensive grad school. And I’m also really excited at how personal is really makes our wedding. It becomes less about the pomp and circumstance and more about everyone involved in our lives. I am pro this.

There is one thing that I really wanted to spend money on. Engagement pictures. I know they’re not a big deal; a lot of people choose not to even take engagement pictures. But I also know that there are very few good pictures of me and The Boy, both self-proclaimed “unphotogenics.”

And we found Melissa of Fresh Photography. She has this amazing eye for a shot and a wonderful editing technique that’s both vintagey and modern. And she seriously loves what she does. If you’re in Colorado looking for a photog, look her up.

She sent me a second sneak peek today that I thought I should share with you!

This is one of my favourites. It’s an example of what we like to call, “The Joel Show.” He’s the lead and writer and I’m the producer, and often act along side him. He hams it up and I either egg him on, look at him disapprovingly or descend into laughter.

Seriously, though. Melissa is awesome. Check her out here.